"Lisa, no. That's ridiculous": Bride's 25-year-old sister demands to bring her pet bird to their wedding, stealing the spotlight of sister's big day

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    [Am I wrong] for telling my sis she cant bring her bird to my wedding?

    'Now Lisa isn't talking to me unless it's about the "bird discrimination."
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    okay, reddit, buckle up because I genuinely don't know if I'm losing my mind here. This situation has completely spiraled, and I need a reality check.
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    My fiancé (29M) and I (27F) are getting married in about six weeks. We've been planning this day for what feels like forever- you know how it goes: deposits on venues, trying to keep Aunt Karen from starting another family feud over the seating chart, and convincing the florist that I actually do need that many peonies. It's been a ride.
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    Here's where things get... different. My sister, "Lisa" (25F), has a pet bird. Not just any bird -this is Sunny, her beloved, bright yellow-and-red parakeet. She's had Sunny for three years now, and I get it-she adores this little guy. She calls him her "baby." She's always posting
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    videos of him singing, playing with his favorite toys (a red and yellow ball), or just chilling on her shoulder while she does laundry. Sunny's fine. I like him. He's cute, for a bird.
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    Last weekend, Lisa casually dropped into conversation: "By the way, I'll bring Sunny to the wedding! He's so well-behaved -he'll love it." Uh... what?
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    I laughed, thinking she was joking, but she wasn't. She went on about how Sunny would stay in his little travel cage, maybe come out for "a quick hello" during the reception, and how he'd match the decor because he's basically a mascot for the whole family. (I didn't even know we had a mascot?!)
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    I said, "Lisa, no. That's ridiculous." She got defensive immediately. "But he's part of the family! You let people bring kids!"
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    Yes, Lisa. Children. Human children. She's furious. Like, full-on ranting in the family group chat furious. She's saying I'm excluding her and that she'll have to leave early if Sunny can't come because she doesn't trust anyone else to watch him. She even implied that I don't care about her feelings or her "bond with Sunny."
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    Our mom is staying neutral ("It's your wedding; do what you want"), while my dad muttered something about "That bird being more spoiled than I am.” My fiancé thinks this is all insane and has made it clear there's no way a parakeet is coming to our fancy, indoor wedding venue.
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    Now Lisa isn't talking to me unless it's about the "bird discrimination." She's threatened not to come at all, which honestly feels so extreme.
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    Here's the thing: I love my sister. I want her there. But it's a bird. What if it gets loose? What if it screeches during our vows? What if one of the guests (or God forbid, the bride) gets pooped on mid-toast?
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    Lisa insists none of this will happen, but it just feels so unnecessary and, frankly, stressful. I don't want to spend my wedding day worrying about a parakeet.
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    Reddit, am I the a h le for saying no? Or is this a hill worth d_ing on? Because right now, I'm this close to booking a fake "avian- free" policy with the venue just to settle this once and for all. Help.
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    CasaDeShenanigans NTA. Can you blame the venue and say they have a no animals policy?
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    HighKaj magine people asking where OPs sister is and the answer being "She didn't want to come since she couldn't bring her parakeet"
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    I think no one is gonna call OP TA for that. Birds poop a lot, and are noisy. I adore birds, but I wouldn't want that at my wedding. Plus does sis even know if the bird will be okay with that many people? Is the bird good with being on a leash? So many things to consider.
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    choppedliver65 Your sister has bigger problems than not being allowed to bring her bird to your wedding. If she is serious about thinking her position is in any way reasonable, then she needs to seek professional help. NTA
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    DancinginHyrule Listen, I have furr babies and they are my babies. Kisses on the head, baby-talking, the whole nine yards.
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    But I do not bring them to social functions. And I do not think they will di from being along for half a day. Or a day if someone refills the food.
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    That setting (a wedding reception) must be SO stressful for a bird. Loud talking, new people, noises. This has nothing to do with bird-wellfare and is only anout your sister having separation anxity. Stand your ground. No birds. No cats. No pet tarantulas. NTA
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    peakpenguins NTA for saying no. You can't force her to come anyway though, so be ready for the possibility that she'll skip the wedding entirely.
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    HI, I love my pets to bits but I can't imagine even asking to bring them to a wedding, let alone throw a fit when I'm told no.
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    nc... Nta, your sister seems to have a loose screw. Have the venue call her or email her telling her the bird cannot attend bce the board health will shut them down because it is not a service animal. I was in a restaurant one time at this
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    lady, brought her dog in but was told to leave because the owner said I am not getting shut down by the Board of Health because of your nonservice animal. Hopefully your sister realizes the stupidity of her assumption

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